Yesterday was a very special day for me. About a month ago right here on the blog I got a message from a high school buddy of mine.
Chuck Paxton and I were good friends through high school. Sadly, as is so often the case right after high school our individual lives took us in different directions and we lost contact. It is mind boggling to me when I think, high school, that was 38 years ago. How did 38 years go by so very quickly.
Memory or at least mine is a funny thing. There are often times when I can’t remember something that happened an hour ago, but I have memories of things that happened 40 years ago.
For Chuck and I my memories go way back to even before we had girl friends. One day maybe I will post some of the “high jinx” we got up to.
My memories carry back to another high school friend. Teri Dowler definitely fell into the cute chick category. I can remember way back to when Teri and Chuck started dating. They did make such a good couple. I think that was in grade 11. I chuckle now when I think of how our friendship evolved. I can’t say our friendship began before we discovered girls, oh, we knew they were there. There is a big step involved for young guys going from “knowing” they are there to having the nerve to talk to one or even ask a girl out. We were friends through that stage. I chuckle because I think back to how our “priorities” changed. We for sure remained friends we just didn’t hang out together as much. I am sure Chuck will echo these same feelings back to me. It was sort of, huh, hang out with Chuck on a Friday night or go on a date with a girl. That certainly didn’t seem to be a hard decision. We double dated on occasion and the friendship carried on.
I had know Teri before they started dating but obviously got to know her better as she dated Chuck. I think I was about 16 at the time and as I got to know her better, I could see not only was she a cute hot chick she was also very very nice. Through high school we went.
Now, I want to say I attended their wedding about a year or two after high school. Hey, I am memory guy and will have to leave it at, I am pretty sure I attended their wedding. From there we pretty much disappeared from each others lives. Careers, life in general taking us in different directions.
Chuck and I only reconnects a month or two ago when he reached out through cyber space, found me here on the blog and left me a message. Since then emails have been going back and forth, with an occasional phone call thrown in.
Chuck was scheduled to actually be passing through Winnipeg,yesterday, He kindly stopped over to the house for a visit. Time restraints made the visit short but we reconnected as friends. So much time has passed we could have met as virtual strangers but for me anyway it wasn’t like that. We immediately fell into the comfortable feeling you have when talking to a dear friend.
Chuck, I thank you so very much for first off locating and then reaching out to contact me and for then taking the time to stop by for a visit. I appreciate it buddy. Let’s please try to stay in touch.
Reestablishing the friendship is great, no question of that. Sadly, it is not all good news. Teri passed away April 27/09. I quote from one of our emails.
“Teri was diagnosed with lung cancer in Oct ’07 and spent the neat year and a half going thru chemo, radiation treatments and major surgery trying to beat it, but nothing worked and she passed away April 27 ’09”.
When I read that email, I did get a lump in my throat and tears did come to the eyes.
Only, yesterday did I learn Teri had initially be stricken with cancer 30 years ago. Went through all the treatments and beat it, such a strong and courageous lady. Chuck and family, my heart is bleeding for you.
So very many times I have said it is so much more difficult for the families. Chuck is a strong man and will get past this with time. Talking to him yesterday I could see and feel his pain at the loose of a life time partner.
I ask please for prayers for Chuck, his family and all that are currently in or facing such a very difficult and painful time.
Chuck, buddy, I may not have been around for you in the past, I didn’t know. But know I am here now.
Oh I know those types of timeless friendships and undying love, it’s nice to read about how you guys reconnected…. As for the tragedy Chuck is going through, I can only say I’ll pray for his strength. I can’t imagine what it’s like to watch a loved one fight a deadly illness and to have to watch them pass on… My thoughts and prayers are with him.
Stay strong Bill…!!!
*sending warmth and healing thoughts for Chuck*
How graced he was to have a lifetime with the love of his life.
Way cool that you and he have been able to reconnect.
There are very few people I have ‘history’ of that type with. It always amazes me when I cross paths with people who do.
You keep taking care of you, sir.
*hugs to you and Vi*
I will definitely send Much Love and Light Chuck’s way. That’s a beautiful story. Sorry about Teri, that had to have been difficult and heartbreaking. I love that they stayed together all of those years. Thank You for sharing this. Cheers and Namaste. 🙂
Your thoughts and friendship to others is the best! I am glad you have all united in a cause. Love conquers all. My thoughts are with you all!
I haven’t been able to connect with you and “the gang” for awhile so it feels good to be back here. How wonderful for you to have re-connected with a high-school buddy! To quote somebody who said it just perfectly: A friend is a single soul living in two bodies. Cherish that friendship, Bill…sometimes its tough to find. Please assure Chuck that he’s at the top of the priority prayer list for today. Anyone who has spent a lifetime with a true soul-mate is a fortunate being. The dying happens, it’s exactly what makes us human and part of nature. So if dying is inevitable then it’s the living part that’s important whether we with our mate or not. It sounds like Chuck and Terri had a good life together. I’m sure the essence of Terri still lives in his heart so basically she lives on and when Chuck goes, the circle will be complete. I’m starting to ramble…
Peace be with you and have a great day, Wiseman.
To your friend Chuck: I am so sorry to hear the sad news about Terri. We all, none of use here, knew her of course. But hearing her name and hearing a bit about her story keeps her memory alive. I do send my regrets and thoughts of love and warmth to you and everyone who knew and loved her.
Prayers being sent!
I recently reconnected with my best high school friend after 20 years, so I can relate to your story. When we saw each other for the first time in 20 years, there was no awkwardness or getting to know each other all over again — we just instantly reconnected and started talking like we’d never been apart. During the time we had lost touch, she lost her mother to lung cancer and I lost my brother to meningitis, so there were some sad stories to catch up on, as well, but it was nice to be able to talk with each other about it. I’m glad that you and Chuck have reconnected and have each other to talk to. It is so nice to be able to share a loss like that with someone who knew you way back when.
Oh that’s great you met your school friend through blogging! How astonished you must have got when you’d read his name appear on your blog!
Cheers to your friendship !
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