Many times I have been asked what I have learned from this whole blogging experience. A LOT. I am sure I could fill a hundred pages with all I have learned and with the way I like to ramble. My style must be why say it in 2 words if you can ramble on for an additional 20 words.
Where to even start. I have received in the area of 9,000 comments. Many of which raised points or brought out wisdom far beyond anything I could have managed on my own. I read these, I think on what has been said and try to absorb and put into practice the wisdom shared.
I learned from what was shared but I also learned. A life time of bad habits don’t just disappear just because you read something no matter how much sense what you read makes. Put me in certain situations, it seems especially if it involves my kids or grand kids. All the knowledge/wisdom in the world can’t keep the poppa bear in me from rising to the surface.
It takes work, it takes practice. No one ever said life would always be easy, just that it can be so very good. It truly is one of those things that the more you put in the more you get back. A big life lesson I am still struggling with, especially the poppa bear part.
Now this I already knew but this blogging experience has re-enforced it. In a situation such as mine many people don’t know what to say. I imagine the thought is, I don’t have anything “meaningful” to say. It is easier to just say nothing. I suppose my definition of what is meaningful in a situation like this comes into play. Every comment is meaningful. Something as simple as “hello, my thoughts are with you” has meaning to me. It means I was in the thoughts and heart of someone, very likely a stranger. Someone I have never met and never will meet. If nothing else it re-enforces in my own mind the love and kindness contained within the human heart.
Let’s jump this beyond a stranger on the internet, which is what I am to the vast majority of readers. Let’s take it to within our individual lives.
Make up a scenario. You in your own life have say an uncle but could be anyone. You know their time is short. Now I know individually we can likely come up with a million reasons/excuses why we don’t call or visit and they are perfectly legitimate to us in the moment. I can speak from experience. Once that person has passed, in time the legitimacy of those seemingly real reasons disappear and regret sets in.
Think of it from the perspective of the patient. Aware they know of your condition yet you don’t hear from them. What are you to think.
Recently, I spoke to a grieving new widow. A comment she made has stuck in my mind. “If they call it shows how much they care, if they don’t call that also shows how much they care”
I post the blog on the wordpress site. I am running into a problem. Over the past month or so I have started numerous posts. As I love to ramble, posts can sometimes be a little longer than needed but hey that is me. I often write take a break and come back a little while later.
this is causing a problem as when I return, my draft or what I had written is gone. System has gone through an update. It used to auto save ever minute or so. It doesn’t do that anymore. Nor can I see a save button. Can anyone help? Numerous partially completed posts have disappeared
Fear of Death: How to Make it A Healthy Type of Fear
by Departing Decisions | Jun 26, 2012 | Support and Guidance
The fear of death is one of the most complicated phobias to affect at least 75% of the world’s population. A lot of people are afraid of dying. While some fear being dead, there are those who are extremely scared of the actual act of dying.
Although this fear can be explained and even justified, it if affects your daily life, it’s no longer healthy and realistic. What one needs to understand is that death will come to all of us eventually and there’s no way that we can prevent it.
What you can do though is to have a healthy type of fear and that is to be scared of dying unprepared. You don’t want to leave the world with unfinished business and not able to do everything that you’ve dreamed about. Although it’s going to come to you no matter what you do, you can prepare for a successful, peaceful death. How? By living your life to the fullest and by striving to become an inspiration to others.
Be prepared all the time
One thing that makes death even scarier is that nobody knows when it will come. While other people live for hundreds of years, others die even before they reach their teenage years. So, what can you do? Stop obsessing about death and do something to protect yourself from untimely demise. Simple things like putting your seatbelt when you’re driving or living a healthy life can give you better chances of living longer.
Also, do not fear death by making sure that you’re ready to go anytime. Stop making enemies, tell the people you love how you feel about them each and everyday, do the things that make you happy, and be an inspiration to people around you.
The world is not our home
In order to easily accept death, one must understand that this world that we’re living in right now is not exactly our home. Each of us is just a traveler passing through. In a matter of days, months, or years, we all shall move on to our next life and we’ll take with us nothing but imprints of our good deeds or negative actions we have created while on Earth.
Welcome and not fear death
Realizing that death will eventually come to all of us actually offer benefits. As we have limited time here on Earth, we are encouraged to maximize that time and live in such a way that people around us will not forget we have existed. Live life helping others, and offer love, compassion, and wisdom with people you encounter. If you do this, you’ll find yourself in your dying bed months or years from now without single regret or fear.
For more information: Dealing with Fear
Making a Difference in Life and in Death: Donating Your Body to Science
Grief is Not Linear
Helping Children Grieve
Before Death Checklist
Flowers for Funerals: The Best Way to Show Sympathy
History of Traditional Burial Ceremonies & Why They Matter
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