Dying Man’s Daily Journal – Things you don’t know about me

June 26, 2008

I have been tagged by my friend psychscribe as me to list 10 things you don’t know about me. I find this actually kind of tough and a bit of a challenge as I think most things I have just laid out there. I am memory guy here so I may have mentioned some or even all of this in the past, don’t know, but here we go.

1. I am to short for my weight

2. I am really not a sports fan, watching very little of it even on TV. BUT, do like to watch the season finals or championships of most sports.

3. I have my own strong spiritual beliefs but do not attend any particular church.

4. Being a banker most of my working life I was transfered often. So often that our home now is my 26th different residence.

5. Back in my younger and wilder days I would occasionally get into fights with other guys. I have never been able to tolerate a bully and most fights resulted from this.

6. I seem to love all foods greasy, hamburgers, french fries, pizza etc.

7. I hate brussel sprouts and anything from the squash family.

8. It seems no matter how much sun I get my legs never seem to want to tan.

9. I have a very strong belief in Angels, Guardian Angels, Spirit Guides etc.

10. I do a lot of reading. But my reading seems to be in spurts. I will do a lot of reading for a couple of months and then virtually none for the next while.

There we go 10 things just off the top of my head. May change or add more later. I will likely tag a few friends but will have to do that later.

Dying Man’s Daily Journal – Happy Birthday Billie/acts of kindness request

June 24, 2008

If I were asked directly, what have I done to make this world a better place. I would hum and haa and finally have to admit really nothing. But, really that is wrong. The world is truly a better place because of my 2 daughters, Billie and Shauna. I am lucky enough to be able to claim at least some of the credit for bringing them into this world. Through them I have done something to make this world a better place.

Well today is a special day. It is Billie’s birthday. I am flat out asking any one and everyone that may read this to give her a birthday present to join with us in celebrating her turning 30.

What would be the very best present you could possibly give to her. Perform a small random act of kindness for some one, for anyone. Every single act of kindness does indeed make this world a little bit better. How much better, who is to ever know. A single act of kindness can cause a ripple effect and who is to know how far or how wide that ripple will spread. OK, let’s face it will a simple small act of kindness you your part bring about world peace or anything like that, not likely but who can know. But, it is enough to know with every act of kindness the world is in fact a little bit better.

In the past on several occasions I have asked for anonymous random acts of kindness be preformed. Anonymous because it is then done with no expectation of reward or recognition of any kind. It is instead done from the beauty and love contained with in our hearts. It is an act of kindness done not because I had to or because I was expected to. It is done simply because i wanted to help another, prompted only by the love and goodness contained within my heart. If a single act of kindness makes the world a little better, think about how much better it can be if we all join together, each doing their own little part.

Back at the top of this post you will see a separate page I have set up called “Spirit within Me”. Within that posting, I am asking all to commit to 5 minutes a week to specifically look for an act of kindness to perform for another. Now think about it, I don’t care how busy you are, no one is so busy that can’t squeeze in 5 minutes a week. Hey, 5 minutes a day would be preferable but 5 minutes a week is a start.

OK, to Billie’s birthday present. I am asking the acts of kindness remain anonymous to who ever it is you are doing it. But, I am asking please leave me a comment here, telling me what is was you did. By doing so you are not seeking glory or praise but instead sharing ideas with others about things maybe they can do going forward. Plus I know Billie will be thrilled at the thought of kindness being done in her name or for her birthday.

I ask fellow bloggers to make mention of this. Let’s get the world just over flowing with kindness.

Happy Birthday Billie, I love you.

Dying Man’s Daily Journal – Great Wedding/weekend

June 24, 2008

This past weekend was a wonderful time. We had company arriving through out last week all in preparation for the wedding on Saturday.

Festivities began on Friday afternoon. Families from both sides (bride and groom) plus the wedding party gathered in our back yard for a BBQ prior to the wedding party rushing off to the wedding rehearsal. There must have 30-35 people if not more. There was a master BBQ’er standing (lol) at the grill or at least no one that I know of got food poisoning or anything of the sort. My brother Eric arrived with a huge potato salad, which together with the salads etc. that Vi had prepared made for a great meal. I love that pasta/manderine orange salad. Lets just say a quantity of beer was consumed.

Saturday arrived, the wedding day. It was beautiful, sunny and hot. Well hot by our Manitoba standards. Bride was gorgeous, brides maids all beautiful, groom. best , man and ushers all very handsome and damper in their tuxedos. Ceremony was beautiful, I am told. Very close to the beginning of the ceremony 18 month old Seth, also very handsome and dapper in his tuxedo, decided he didn’t want to stay inside and was very vocal about telling the entire church about it. As I am the step grandpa or poppa as he calls me, I picked him up and carried him outside. The Church as it turns out has a beautiful little park beside it. Seth and poppa had a great time playing in it. Turns out the service was much shorter than I had expected. I thought we had only played for a few minutes, but time does seem to fly by when you are having fun. When I picked him up to go back inside everything was just ending. The priest was just introducing Mr. and Mrs. Zahayko to those in attendance. Everyone tells me the service was beautiful and I am kind of sorry I missed it, but hey if I had to do it all over I would still chose playing with Seth, he is such a sweet little guy.

It is at this point in the post I had planned to put in a picture of the bride and groom. Well an interesting thing happened. I gave the camera to my daughter Shauna to snap a few pics and memory guy here forgot to get it back. So my camera is now out of town. A picture of the bride and groom will be going up soon.

I have heard it said it is good luck to have it rain on your wedding day. Well I hope so. Right after the service the wedding party and family went to the Manitoba Legislature building to have some pictures taken. It is a beautiful spot to which many wedding parties go for pictures. The beautiful sunny day changed within a matter of minutes. Wedding party was just getting out of the limo for the pictures and the rain started and lasted for approx. 1 1/2 hours the time alloted for the pictures with the photographer. What can you do but make do with what you have. Thankfully there is an overhang atop the steps of the legislature and pictures were taken there.

A reception followed, the meal was great and the dance enjoyed by all. Rumor has it that a heavy set bald guy even got dragged up on the dance floor and really showed his stuff. Well at least showed his stuff at the beginning of each song but seemed to really slow down as the song continued. That same rumor contends that after each song he retreated to a chair to huff and puff for several minutes.

A big congratulations to Lynelle and Jason. “May the very best day in your past be not nearly as good as the worst day in your future”.

Dying Man’s Daily Journal – Wedding Wishes

June 17, 2008

I mentioned yesterday of how family is starting to gather for Lynelle and Jason’s wedding on Saturday. From the way the week is starting it would seem it will be a week long celebration. At this rate all could be so tired by the time we reach the actual day everyone will be to tired to enjoy the actual day. Naw, that won’t happen.

Yesterday, I was flipping through so of the files I have stored here on the computer and came on something that I had forgotten about, or hadn’t realized I had saved a copy of. It was a wedding wish I had written a while ago for someone dear to me. She lives basically on the other side of the world, which eliminated any chance of actually attending the wedding. I wasn’t there physically but I was there in spirit. Hey, we even figured out the time difference and drank a toast to the happy couple. OK, the toast may have been with coffee but it is the thought that counts, I think.

I realize over the summer there will be many couples getting married and while I am specifically dedicating this to Lynelle and Jason, I extend the thoughts to all.

Here is the message I wrote back then, I have obviously changed the names to suit the occasion.

Dear Lynelle and Jason

Both Vi and myself send you our most heart felt congratulations on this your wonderful day.

Enjoy this day, cherish it and each other, it is the beginning of your lives together.

Jason; just take a moment to really take a look and Lynelle. Really look and see the beautiful, wonderful young woman that is pledging to spend the rest of her life with you. Let the realization, the awe, sink in at just how lucky you are. Feel it in your heart, cherish that feeling as much as you cherish Her. I know your heart is already full of love but in one small corner, store that feeling. Store the feeling of being so lucky, be in awe of her. Keep it there so you can draw on it anytime you need it and believe me there will be will tiffs and times when you feel cross with each other. Those are the times you reach into your heart and go to that spot. By going to that spot you will remember how much you love her, how lucky you are to have her and suddenly what ever you are upset about suddenly will seem pretty small

Now Lynelle you do the same, look at Jason and realize how lucky you are to have this wonderful man pledging to spend the rest of his life with you. Always keep your heart full of love for him but have that one little spot, where you store the feeling of the luckiest woman on this earth. Keep that feeling tucked away, go to it when you need it.

Each of you make a pledge that every day you will do you very best not to drive the other to seek the comfort and support of that little spot.

I hope your day is wonderful and that your lives together are even better.

Our toast to you: “ May the very best day in your past be not nearly as good as the worst day in your future:.

Dying Man’s Daily Journal – Exciting Week

June 16, 2008

Yesterday marked the beginning of what is going to be a very exciting week. Vi’s daughter, my step daughter, Lynelle is getting married this Saturday. The house will be bursting with family and friends, all here to join in celebrating this occasion.

Lynelle and soon to be hubby Jason arrived yesterday with Seth and Sadie in tow. Murray a member of the wedding part accompanied them.

Wednesday, Vi’s son’s Rob, Dave and Michael will be arriving. Rob with g/f Reagan and children Arielle and Stephan. Dave with wife Kelly and children Dawson and Carter. Numerous other family members arriving at different times through the week. House could be bursting at the seams but hey you can always find room for one more. I think 13 is the most over night guests we have had at one time in the past. All are always welcome, not saying you will necessarily get a bed, maybe a couch or even an air mattress on the floor but we will fit you in somewhere.

Looking forward to an exciting week. Not sure if with everything happening is I will be posting regularly but I will keep updating the wedding progress.

Dying Man’s Daily Journal – Prayer Request

June 15, 2008

I have just read a comment left by Vi’s bother Henri. A special prayer request has been made. I ask please for prayers from all. Here is Henri’s request:

Hi Bill,
I ask if your friends could send a prayer to Dallas, Her father passed last night (earlier this AM) She is Jeryls (nephew) best friend.. and only 10 years old.

Dying Man’s Daily Journal – Happy Father’s Day

June 14, 2008

Happy father’s day to all the dads out there. I hope a wonderful and loving time is had by all and that it is seen as a special day by all.

It has only been in the past few years since I was forced into “early retirement” obviously because of my health, that I have been allowed the time, the luxury of just being able to sit back and think. As I am just an average guy I assume my average guy thoughts are typical of many. So as I think back to past events or times in my life I imagine many can relate at least in some way.

My own father passed over in 1985 but I think back to the father’s days prior to his passing and what it was that I did or more importantly what I didn’t do to mark those special occasions.

Here I go with my “excuses”. Right out of high school I was hired by the bank and almost immediately transfered to a different town about 600 miles away. Never again were we to ever live in the same community. So OBVIOUSLY I was unable to have dad over for a big family BBQ in the back yard with all the family around. I realize now I chose to limit myself to be obligatory phone call on father’s day. I am sure all either know or can at least imagine the type of phone call I am talking about. “Hi happy father’s day”. Fill in a minute or two of idle chatter and then say I have to run. Again wish him a happy father’s day and hang up. Feeling almost relieved that one more obligation is out of the way and I can get on with my life.

I realize now that some where along the line I came to view that phone call as an obligation, something I was expected to do. Some how I allowed in my mind the day to become just another day, but with one in which I was obligated to make a phone call. Maybe in some ways almost like an inconvenience or bit of a worry about maybe forgetting about it all together. Make the call and it was almost sort of a relief, “phew, got that done for another year.” I have to wonder how many other have allowed themselves to think of it in that way. Likely, not many that will admit it even to themselves, it just sounds so disrespectful. I wonder how much is done, be it family get togethers what ever, that are done out of this sense of obligation as opposed to truly being a gesture of respect and thanks.

In my thoughtful moments I have come to view fathers day from I suppose 2 different angles.

Father’s day as should Mother’s day be seen as special days. Each is but one day of the year in which we can show our respect and gratitude in this case to our fathers for what they have contributed to our lives. Granted there are always exceptions and I do acknowledge there are some that aren’t deserving of any thanks. I am not going to go into that now as I do believe these are in the vast minority.

As adults how do we recognize our fathers on this day. Let’s face it father’s day is seldom really a full day or recognition. It is more often limited to the “phone call” which may take mere minutes. It may take a few hours if it includes some sort of family get together. When you think of a few hours in relation to the number of hours we have in a year, it is a very small percentage. It is only now, well after my father passed away that I can really see how in the big picture of my life, how little effort it would have taken on my part to make “his” day at least a little more special.

I hope and pray that tomorrow, when the obligatory phone calls are made or the family functions are attended we can bring our focus, our mind sets to the real reason for the day. To give honor and respect to the man, with out whom we would not even exist. Truly giving this short period of time, really putting our hearts into it does really to me seem to be a pretty small price to pay for out very “existence”.

The second way I have learned to see the day is actually from the prospective of being a father. This is a day meant to be for fathers. As such I think it is also a day for the fathers to really look at their lives. To look at the roll they are playing in their children’s lives as a father. It is the fact that I have children that is allowing me to be “honored” on this day. Let’s face it simple biology allows virtually every male to become a father, but it takes a man to be a father.

I know most dad’s are out there struggling day by day to be the best father they can. This being a parent thing is hard, there are no exact training manuals covering how to deal with so many of the individual situations we encounter and we do our best and hope for the best out come.

I encourage all fathers to take a few moments of quiet time and silently reflect on how we are fulfilling our “duties” as a father. To celebrate the small successes occurring on a daily basis. Admit we have made mistakes, look at them and learn from them. Take this time to enjoy and appreciate the wonder of being granted children. Feel the love for your children and make and internal vow to be the very best dad you can be in this upcoming year.

I hope all have a wonderful, love filled day.