Dying Man’s Daily Journal – Pre-planning your own funeral

July 22, 2014

To be clear I think it is an excellent idea to plan and make arrangements for your own funeral.
I want to make things as easy as possible for my family when the time comes. Come the time there will be one less thing for them to worry and stress about. A primary concern so often seems to be what would he/she have wanted. Well if you have actually made the arrangements it is pretty clear what it is you want.
The decision making has been done, one less worry or pressure to deal with and isn’t that what we want? Make it as easy as possible.
Pre-arranging your funeral is not a morbid thing to do. By doing so doesn’t mean you expect to die tomorrow. Rather it is a loving practical gesture, a loving gesture to and for your family.
I do suggest everyone should do it. Even if you have left verbal or written instructions, so much of that can be left to interpretation. Disputes, arguments can ensue, often leaving bitter feelings that can destroy relationships/families. I know many will say that wouldn’t happen in our family. Over the years as a banker I helped many people deal with estate issues. While doing this often someone poured out their heart about family issues that had arise having nothing to do with finances. I have seen it all to often to want to even take that chance.
OK, now planning an excellent idea but I would suggest it be done prior to being in your final days. Do it while the though of dying is still but an abstract thought of something far in the future. When you are in that chapel and you are fully aware you may well be returning but in a matter of days. Much more difficult


Dying Man’s Daily Journal – People in our lives

July 22, 2014

I have come to realize it is the people in our lives that are the most important, most valuable and all to often the most under appreciated part of our lives. This really is so sad when I think of it. It is the people in our lives. Those that mean the very most to us.
A tough day at work and what do we so often do? Take it out on those that mean the most to us at home.
I think of it. Your small child accidentally sills a glass of milk, how often do we get upset? The next day you have company over. Their child spills a glass of milk. Do we react in the same way?
I look around at my life and see I am blessed to have the people in my life that I do. I have come to realize that those you just know will be there for you in a crisis can seem to fade from sight. Loving support is always there often from those from whom you least expect it. Value all people in your life. Accept that as people come into our lives for a reason. They come giving us opportunities to learn life lessons. Appreciate them while they are there but allow them to fade. Focus time and energy on those that remain. Focus on the positive, let go of the negative it/they will only bring you down. Yes, I said they, being negative people they will drain the energy the life right out of you


Dying Man’s Daily Journal – Update

July 17, 2014

Time seems to be flying past and how long it has been since I have really been on the blog. Life just keeps getting in the way.

For me sleeping is becoming a bigger and bigger part of my days. It seems no matter how much I sleep/nap I still feel constantly tired. It is almost more like a deep worn out feeling. Virtually zero energy and more and more am finding I have to push myself to do even little things.

Chest pain/discomfort is almost constant. Doctors always use a 1-10 scale in describing the level of pain. Majority of time mine is only about a 1. Really just enough to be noticeable, 4 or 5 times a day it increases to about a 4 or 5 level and I use the nitro spray. A nuisance but really not much more than that. I try to keep my mind in focus. If I dwell on the fact this pain is my heart, it can be unsettling.
My balance seems to be getting worse. At least several times a day, I seem to loose my balance. I do what I call a little stumble step and am able to catch myself, usually by grabbing on to something close by and getting stabilized. After a countless number of these little issues, I lost my balance and hit the floor. Luckily, I used my head against a dresser to partially break my fall. I am happy to say both the floor and dresser are just fine. Other than a headache and a honking bruise on my thigh, I also survived quite nicely.
While it was not planned, using my head to break my fall was likely a good thing. It has been described as being like a bowling ball. Hard on the outside, empty on the inside so can’t do it much harm.
Just part of the regular routine neurologist is sending me for an MRI to check out that pesky brain tumour. In a couple of weeks I see the heart failure clinic again just regular follow up.
Vi is still waiting for her surgery. Walking is becoming more and more of an issue. You can’t keep a good woman down. It seems most major stores have the motorized wheel chairs. She can’t walk the store isles so she now rides them in comfort. I am proud of her also for her determination in getting her flower beds all planted and looking good


WordPress help needed

July 10, 2014

I post the blog on the wordpress site. I am running into a problem. Over the past month or so I have started numerous posts. As I love to ramble, posts can sometimes be a little longer than needed but hey that is me. I often write take a break and come back a little while later.

this is causing a problem as when I return, my draft or what I had written is gone. System has gone through an update. It used to auto save ever minute or so. It doesn’t do that anymore. Nor can I see a save button. Can anyone help? Numerous partially completed posts have disappeared 


Fear of Death

July 9, 2014

Fear of Death: How to Make it A Healthy Type of Fear
by Departing Decisions | Jun 26, 2012 | Support and Guidance
The fear of death is one of the most complicated phobias to affect at least 75% of the world’s population. A lot of people are afraid of dying. While some fear being dead, there are those who are extremely scared of the actual act of dying.

Although this fear can be explained and even justified, it if affects your daily life, it’s no longer healthy and realistic. What one needs to understand is that death will come to all of us eventually and there’s no way that we can prevent it.
What you can do though is to have a healthy type of fear and that is to be scared of dying unprepared. You don’t want to leave the world with unfinished business and not able to do everything that you’ve dreamed about. Although it’s going to come to you no matter what you do, you can prepare for a successful, peaceful death. How? By living your life to the fullest and by striving to become an inspiration to others.
Be prepared all the time
One thing that makes death even scarier is that nobody knows when it will come. While other people live for hundreds of years, others die even before they reach their teenage years. So, what can you do? Stop obsessing about death and do something to protect yourself from untimely demise. Simple things like putting your seatbelt when you’re driving or living a healthy life can give you better chances of living longer.
Also, do not fear death by making sure that you’re ready to go anytime. Stop making enemies, tell the people you love how you feel about them each and everyday, do the things that make you happy, and be an inspiration to people around you.
The world is not our home
In order to easily accept death, one must understand that this world that we’re living in right now is not exactly our home. Each of us is just a traveler passing through. In a matter of days, months, or years, we all shall move on to our next life and we’ll take with us nothing but imprints of our good deeds or negative actions we have created while on Earth.
Welcome and not fear death
Realizing that death will eventually come to all of us actually offer benefits. As we have limited time here on Earth, we are encouraged to maximize that time and live in such a way that people around us will not forget we have existed. Live life helping others, and offer love, compassion, and wisdom with people you encounter. If you do this, you’ll find yourself in your dying bed months or years from now without single regret or fear.
For more information: Dealing with Fear
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Dying Man’s Daily Journal – brain tumour

June 24, 2014

Living the wild bachelor life. Vi’s daughter, Lynelle and family passed through Winnipeg. They are on vacation and on there way to Wisconsin. They invited Vi to join them, she did and will be gone for the next week. I wear one of those medical alert pendants and we had to test it to ensure her it was working before she left, all is good. I think it is good for her to get away every once in a while. In a way a bit of a respite from worrying about me. I know she still worries but there is at least a little of the “out of sight out of mind” relaxation time.

I am often asked how am I doing? My standard answer is I am doing good and based on my current reality I am doing good. I am up and about can cook for myself, care for myself. Remembering to take my medications well that can be an issue. It is just my energy levels are close to zero and I just have to push myself a little harder. Things like dusting the house, the routine things will just not be happening.

People will often comment, you are looking good, you don’t even look sick. Well I am not sick in the way we generally consider being sick. I have a bad heart that greatly affects me physically and a brain tumour that who knows what it is doing to my thinking and emotions. I realize I haven’t written much about the tumour, just not sure what to say about it or how it is affecting me.

As I think about it, it has to be affecting me in some way to some degree. I just have no idea of how or how much.
What do I know about it. It is located obviously on the inside but is about an inch above the centre of my right eye brow. It is roughly round in shape and a little bigger than a large walnut. It obviously squishes that right frontal lobe. Being squished has to effect the full and proper function of that part of the brain. The frontal section of the brain is where our personality is formed. How can you tell how much it is affecting you??


Dying Man’s Daily Journal – Fantasy bucket list update

June 24, 2014

I don’t that often look at the blog stats anymore. There was a time when I was all excited, amazed by the steadily increasing number of hits. I was constantly having feelings of awe. I mean who in the world would/could be interested in reading my endless ramblings.

this morning I looked, 484,579 hits as of this moment. I really am shocked beyond belief.
This got me thinking of my fantasy bucket list. I have had a attainable bucket list, filled and emptied is 3 or 4 times over. I am left with the fantasy bucket list. On that list are items relating to this blog which has come to mean so very much to me.
Fantasy reach 500,000 hits. Currently 484,579, might make it.
Receive 10,000 comments. Currently 9,619, getting there.
Really ambitious one. Know my humble blog has been read in every country in the world. Now stats for that are only available since 01/12. Since then it has reached 166 different countries. UN site shows 194 countries.
I am going to do my best to try and post more often ( this is post #1302. That must show how much I like to ramble on and on.
More posts will result in I hope more hits and comments. Not sure about getting to those last few countries, any suggestions?


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