I have written of how Vi’s mum has been hospitalized, released and then back to the hospital. In a family meeting with her doctor it was learned the prognosis is not all that good and her time left may be as short as a couple of months. Heart attacks, suspected lung cancer have just take their toll on her 86-year-old body. I ask for prayers for Nellie. The strange thing is I am not sure if I am asking for her recover or for a pain-free peaceful passing. Her quality of life is none existent. Family are caring for her and doing the very best they can but there just reaches a point where even that is just not enough.
I visit Nellie every day and I go alone for about an hour. It gives me some one on one time just to talk to her besides that if I go with Vi the visit can easily turn into even 5 or 6 hours and I jut don’t have the energy for that. We just sit and chat, i usually hold her hand. Well actually since she is quite deaf, she talks and I yell to be heard.
I am going to be doing a few posts on the different reactions I see from many anonymously of course. Avoidance seems to be a big one. I feel it a privilege to be able to spend the time with her. The big question seems to be what do you say to a dying person? I don’t know of anything special to say. I visit, and I talk to Nellie th same way i would have before her hospitalization. I mean she is still Nellie is she not