Dying Man’s Daily Journal – Poppa bear

It is amazing how fast the summer seems to have slipped by. We have been blessed to have just about non stop company. Wonderful, yes, but at the same time tiring. We have had a lot of very hot and humid days which do seem to suck the energy right out of me.

I had the occasion to learn of an area within myself that I do need to work on.  I guess it goes to the saying once a dad always a dad. Given the right set of circumstances an angry “poppa bear” can come to the surface.

I plan on being on the computer more regularly in the future. Part of what comes with family visits that include teenagers is reduced access to the computer. lol

I am doing well, feeling fine and thank all for the comments left.

36 Responses to Dying Man’s Daily Journal – Poppa bear

  1. Cat says:

    Glad to see you back and so glad you’re feeling well! I hope the hot and humid days end soon. We have gone from temps of 106 to 97, which seems like a wonderful cool front! Ha! I’m looking forward to some actual cooler weather in the next couple of months.

    I am sure the poppa bear in you comes out only with good reason!

  2. pattiredd says:

    Hot and humid – yep, that’s a bad combination. We have it hot here in Las Vegas, but rarely humid. August is usually the worst in that respect . . . and it can sap the spirit and strength right out of you!
    Don’t worry my friend – it WILL get better soon! Meantime, plese take care of yourself and don’t worry about being a Poppa Bear. If more people were Poppa Bears, there would be a lot less screwed up youngsters out there! Keep on keeping on!

  3. Mel says:

    The girl and I do have a different relationship now that she’s growed up (I use that term loosely…LOL). HOWEVER–I’m still THE MOM! She deals with it and knows it’s cuz I love her madly and she’s stuck with me. LOL

    Well, I THOUGHT we got a break from the hot/humid routine….it’s baaaccckkkkk!!! Ah well, summer’s not long remaining–the maples have a tinge of change in them and I discovered acorns and walnuts. Fall’s comin’!
    OH……and pumpkins are turning! Wooohoooo!!!

    (((((((((( Bill ))))))))))))))

    I’m relieved it was just a case of visiting teens!


  4. Cat says:

    Oh, Mel! You make me wistful. I wish we had a discernible autumn here in central Texas! I’ve been here for 30 years, and I still miss those Canadian autumns fiercely. What little bit of autumn we do get here is my favorite season, but it won’t start until sometime after Halloween.

  5. Tasneem R says:

    That’s great ! Having surrounded by friends and family reduces stress and makes time fly like a bird.
    See yourself as your family sees you.

  6. Slamdunk says:

    Glad to hear that you had an enjoyable yet busy summer. Our summer has gone to quickly.

  7. Souldose says:

    Welcome back dear sir, glad to hear you’re doing great

  8. Betty says:

    Glad your summer has been filled with family and fun. Hope you are now resting up.

    Well Poppa Bear….I must tell you the Mamma Bear came out in me last week while I was baby-sitting my grand daughter. This is the first time since she was born that Mamma Bear had to raise her voice and give her a time out. We have a wonderful bond, but she just got the best of me. Even though I felt badly I know I did the right thing as she is just getting to comfortable with my “let it slide” attitude.

    Hope all is well with you and Vi and look forward to your posts in the future.

  9. Mel says:

    *happily humming* Just a drive-by hug moment–wanting you to know you’re being thought of and prayed for.

    *happily humming some more*

    (((((((((((((((( Bill ))))))))))))))))))))

    Love ya, man!! 😉

  10. minashadow says:

    We miss Bill, hope everythings ok?

  11. minashadow says:

    We miss you Bill, hope everythings ok?

  12. Mel says:

    *tap tap tap*


    (((((((((( Bill ))))))))))

    Just checkin’ in and huggin’. It’s almost fall–so I’m gonna hope that change in heat and humidity has meant good things for you.

    Missin’ hearing from you!
    Enjoy the break from the hot summer nights, eh?

  13. Cat says:

    Just got my computer back from the shop with a brand new hard drive and came over here to see what I’ve missed. Hope all is well, Bill.

  14. Betty says:


    Just checking in and wanting to say hi. Hope all is well with you. Take care!

  15. Irene Plaetinck says:

    Dear Bill,
    Things have become insanely busy here!!! Sorry for not checking in earlier, but rest assured that you and all who post here are prayed for and thought of frequently during my day. Hope all is well and that we hear from you soon. Praying for you always, Wiseman.

  16. Henri says:

    Good Morning Bill,
    Forgiveness,… What is that?

    According to the Harvard’s Health Watch, one study found a link between forgiving and improvements in heart rate and blood pressure. In another study done at The University of Wisconsin-Madison, anger-recall stress imaging studies were performed on cardiac patients. The patients assigned to the forgiveness group showed significantly fewer anger-induced myocardial perfusion defects, which are related to lack of blood flow in the heart. It demonstrated that forgiveness intervention may be an effective means of reducing anger-induced myocardial ishemia in patients with coronary artery disease.( Psychol Health, 2009, Jan 24 (1) 11-27 ). Numerous other studies on forgiveness and cardiovascular health have been performed, demonstrating the positive effects of forgiveness.

    It could be difficult to forgive, unless we first understand and work with the lack of forgiveness. What is a lack of forgiveness? How does it come about within you? Your lack of forgiveness will usually involve feelings of anger or hurt that may be noticed in your body. Some people may think, “That person doesn’t deserve to be forgiven.” The fact is that the forgiveness is something that needs to happen, not for someone else, but for you and your well-being. It’s important to remember that this is not an act of condoning the hurtful action but rather realising your own suffering. In our culture, there is a tendency to consider forgiveness to be like saying, “What you did was okay.” Since this may be far from the truth, it seems wise to consider forgiveness to be a gift to yourself, which is the truth.

    A very helpful observation is to notice that when you are suffering, you tend to do things and say things in an unskillful manner. When you realize that others are like this, it may be easier to shine the light of compassion on those who have hurt you realizing that it was their suffering that lead to hurtful behaviors.

    Why not give yourself the emotional freedom and physical well being of a person who can face the reality that the past is over and done? Consider that releasing your own suffering around holding a grudge is the forgiveness you have wanted.

    Even if you feel that an action is unforgivable, you can decide to let go anyway, and give yourself the long-awaited gift that you deserve.

  17. NSC says:

    We are starting to worry now. Hope all is well and we do hear from you soon.

  18. Lori says:

    Ok now I am really getting worried you haven’t written anything since the end of August. Please just let us know that you are ok and just busy these days. Prayers are always with you and your family.

  19. Bill's Daughter says:

    Hey everyone! Just checking in here as well. I’ll try to get on my dad to get down to his computer and update. Be rest assured in knowing that he’s okay.



    • Cat says:

      Thank you for the update, Billie! I’m so glad he’s okay.

      Bill, no rush in posting if you’re not feeling like it right now. I go through dry spells on my blog all the time. Just glad to know you’re well. Keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

      • Mel says:

        Oh Cat….you’re so much more selfless than I. *laughing*

        You’re right…it’s ‘good enough’ to know all is well.

        I’m a selfish creature and I want MORE. I’ll back off of ‘go GET HIM, Billie’ now.

        (You can hope I mean that longer than this moment in time. LOL)

        (((((((((( Cat ))))))))))))

    • Mel says:

      Go GET him, Billie! 🙂

      And thanks for letting us know he’s just enjoying the seasonal ‘stuff’ and there’s nothing to fret over.

      (that’s what people do when they care about each other, yaknow…)

      Thanks Billie….Now go GET HIM!! LOL

  20. Lori says:

    Thank you Billie for letting us all know that Bill is doing fine and just busy with Life. That is good to know! Cheers to you Bill.

  21. Debb says:

    I’m new here and followed from another readers blog, you have’nt posted in awhile hope your okay. Nice to meet you and thanks for sharing.

  22. Mel says:

    Okay, okay…..Cat’s right!

    I just miss ya, Bill.

    BUT–as one who preaches over and over and over about taking care of YOU…. It’s now become evident that’s ‘take care of you as long as MEL is satisfied all is well’.

    *shaking head*
    If there’s a naughty corner, I oughta be in it!

    ((((((((((((((( Bill ))))))))))))))))))

    Take care of you REGARDLESS of Mel acting like a selfish snot. 😉

    Love ya, man!!

    • Cat says:


      This patience thing takes practice!

      Bill, hope all is still well with you. Still thinking about you and sending good thoughts your way. We’ve finally gotten some gorgeous, cooler weather here (still not exactly autumn weather, but good enough) and I am really enjoying it. Hope you are doing likewise.

  23. Martha says:

    Hey Bill,
    Missing you around friend! What’s up, what’s keeping you away from the keyboard so long?

  24. Betty says:


    From all the comments it is obvious you have many on-line friends who are concerned and miss you, me being one. A brief note will make our day. Don’t want to pressure you if you are for some reason not ready or able to chat.

  25. Mel says:

    Sheeeeeeshhhh…… Cat’s more gracious than I am. Betty’s more gracious than I am.

    Oh, heck…they’re ALL more gracious than I am!

    *drumming fingers on the keyboard*

    I can wait.
    But I’m with Cat–this patience stuff takes patience and practice….and more patience…..and more practice….

    <– is ready to be done practicing now!!!!!

    JUST sayin'. :-/

    ((((((((((((( Bill ))))))))))))))

  26. Henri says:

    I have it on very good authority that Bill is tooooooo busy to come on-line. (lots and lots of exercise) The kitchen requires finishing touches, the upstairs and basement bathroom renovations, the entry way ceiling, re-grading away from the house, eavestrough and downspout replacement, replacing outside window awnings etc, etc… poor Bill.

    • Mel says:

      Hold on….I have some eaves that need cleaned out….

      Just sayin’….

      Bill could supervise!

      Yeah, yeah….LOL….not very patient OR gracious, huh? 😛

  27. Betty says:

    Thanks Henri……hope Bill has taken on a supervisory role and not doing the work himself. If he is I hope he takes allot of breaks.

    Bill take it easy will ya!

  28. Irene says:

    Dear Bill,
    I haven’t been here for a long while (again!!!), but thought I better catch up. Life is once again going at break neck speed and I haven’t figured out how to slow things down yet. I’ll get rich and famous if I ever get that patented!!!! I see though that you haven’t been at the computer in a fair bit and it has all of us concerned. However, Bill has assured us that you’re up to your ying-yang in domestic stuff, so that’s all OK. Sometimes you just have to stop in order to get somewhere–strange how that works, isn’t it? Thinking about you often and praying for you always, Wiseman.

  29. Mel says:

    k….well…. Renovations come before weblogs–I can go with that.

    WHAT am I saying?!?

    k…. The good news–Cat’s trying to get me to be more gracious (failing miserably, tyvm! LOL) and ya’ll want me to practice patience.

    Uh huh.

    Hold on a second–I’m practicing patience and Vi’s getting a new bathroom floor?!
    Oh, she’s a smart one. LOLOL

    ((((((( Bill ))))))))

    And thanks, Henri.
    It’s good to know Vi’s getting some home improvement outta this ‘Mel gets to practice patience’ deal.

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