The older I get, you would presume the “wiser” I get, WRONG.
When I was much younger, I “knew” the answers to everyone else’s problems. I have to even chuckle as I write this but, I suppose that would mean I was much “wiser” back then.lol. Today, I realize I don’t really “know” the answers to much at all. Maybe back then I saw the world as being more in black and white, it was cut and dry, either it was this way or it was that way. Now in between. Really I suppose it was my way or YOU ARE WRONG.
Every thing was black and white with no shades of gray in between. Now there is little that I can see other than those shades of gray. Very few things are as cut and dry as I once thought. There are two sides to every coin, two ways to look at everything.I am just talking about things in daily life,not crime or things like that.
I have come to realize another person is in fact not an extension of me. THey are living their own lives, as it should be.Living your own life is the most important, individual thing you can do. That may sound selfish, but if you really think about it, it is not. Living your own life frees you from the need to put all th effort into putting on a false face of having to conform or bend to the wishes of others. There is so much precious time and energy wasted “pretending” to be someone we are not.
If we could some how learn to relax, be the person we really are, the person we really want to be. Think of all the time and energy we could save by not having to put on our false faces, we feel need to please others.
THere is the flip side to that coin. Relaxing and allowing others to be the people they want to be. Think of all the time and energy put into controlling, domineering or even manipulating others or even a situation into being what we want it to be. We are responsible for our own lives only. Not the lives of others, relax and let them live their lives. (excluding the raising of children to adulthood naturally but only to adulthood).
For my physical mind I often need a physical comparable to put it in prospective. I consider life to be like a journey and often think of it as the highway of life. It is a journey we are all sharing. all participating in. As we travel the highway of life, we each and every one of us has the same destination in mind, how we get there is our own choice.
My human physical comparable. Ten people ate given the task of driving from Montreal to L.A.. In this time, money and health are no problem. The decision on how to get there is left entirely up to each individual. These people don’t know each other and have no connection of any sort. But for some reason they are given some sort of GPS system by which they track to position of each of the others.
Now what is the best route to take. Each individual decides for themselves. Some may choose the most direct route.Others may choose that same direct route but include many exciting side trip along the way. Another may decide to extend the trip by first driving to Florida to possibly visit relatives. For me my trip would be marked with a wild bunch of zig zag lines all over the map as I try to take in and see as much as possible.
With our global positioning system map as we track the progress of the other each day. Might we not ask ourselves, why in the world are they way over there on the map, makes no sense to me at all. My own wild zig zag route might well be questioned for being to far off the direct path.
Is there one right path or route, obviously not. We are all making the same journey in this life. We may disagree and dislike the path another has chosen. But really how can we know the thought process, the reasons that have put them there. What makes my chosen path more right than their’s very likely nothing.
Geesh, thank goodness for spell checker