With everything that has been happening, my having pneumonia, generally not feeling well, having company. There has been much that has kept me away from the computer.
Many comments of a different nature have been left and I am working towards getting to each one in turn.
A new blogging friend Afia actually left 2 comments which I have combined into one for simplicity.
Afia is seeking advice from me from all on a relationship with a dying man. Bluntly put, I don’t know how to respond. I am not an expert on anything. Anything I say is based only on personal thoughts or experiences. What is good or right for me well may not be for the next person. I find of late as things are progressing my answer may in fact vary from day to day.
I ask myself would it be wise to enter into a relationship with a dying person. My best answer is that depends. It depends on many things.
It depends on the individuals and their feelings for each other. There is that saying, it is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all. I believe if we have a chance at true love, we should take it. But, is it that simple as it seems nothing in life is simple
I have to think on this a little, anyone have any suggestions or thoughts. Here is the comment:
I have read so many stories, and I am so touched by each one and your own. I so need some advice from you and comments from anyone else please.
I am in love with a man who has lymphatic cancer. It was discovered too late. And now, he has made the decision not to take any medication, as the side effects greatly inhibit him in so many ways. Drs cannot say how long for sure – maybe a few years, maybe 5 max.
He is my best friend. We were not together when he was diagnosed. I was married, but i was actually in love with him. But, at the time, he was with someone else. I have since split up with my husband and divorced last year. I was grief stricken when i found out about his cancer 2 years ago, but was not able to be there for him, as my husband was very jealous of him.
Now, we have realised our true feelings for eachother, but he is very reluctant to be with me, as I have children.
i want to be with him. I want to be there for him. I wish to share every moment with him. my children are aged 11 and 13. I don’t know how this will effect them, or if I should just leave things alone and not have a relationship with him. In my heart I know that I have always loved him so deeply. His illness has made me see how important he is to me.
He has gone abroad to travel for a while. And I am so glad he is doing that for himself. When he returns I want to be with him. But just as a friend or to have a meaningful loving relationship with him? Maybe even marriage?
love and peace to you all