While I was off line for a while there, I often wrote myself little notes. Thoughts or ideas that hit me about posts I would like to write. I have been flipping through those and realize in many cases I didn’t write enough detail in the note as now I just can’t remember what my point was. I also realize I should have written down where I got the idea from, to give credit where it is due. Now I can’t remember, I some how doubt if they are “Bill” originals but, huh, who knows, well at least not me.
This is one of those ideas that came to me or is at least written in my notes.
I would ask any that may read this to take a minute and just sit back and think about yourself. Think about the person you are both as you see yourself in your own life and in the lives of those you interact with. I am not talking about how you see yourself career wise, your financial or maritial position, nothing like that. I am talking about how do you see yourself as a person.
Let me expand on that. How do you see yourself as a person, when it comes to human emotions: patience, sympathy, empathy, the ability to show love or feel love…… That is almost an endless list. I think you get the idea of what I am trying to say. So again I ask how do you see youself as a person? If you honestly look at yourself, your feelings and emotions, did you come across anything that you found yourself saying well I wish I had more of this or I wish I could show more of that.
Let’s just take patience as but one example. How often have I heard comment like: “I wish I had more patience”. Now that could be applied your dealings with your kids, family, friends, coworkers really anyone.
Now chances are if you have done and honest complete assessment of yourself, you have likely be way to hard on yourself. Maybe, you are like me. The first time I did this, I actually wrote down every emotion I could think of. I then quickly and I suppse glibbly ran down the list. When I had finished I realized I had given myself a check mark in every category. Hey, that means I am perfect, hum. So that means any and every time some thing comes up in my life, I react correctly and the rest of the world is wrong every time. Hmm, have to do a little more thinking here.
I went back and did the list again. I did a little meditation on each and realized, hmm, maybe I am not perfect after all. Me, perfect, now that is a really loud, LOL.
Hopefully everyone may have done an honest self assessment. Not being too hard on yourself but also honestly recognizing any, shall we call them”short comings” by your honest and objective standards.
Now, I change the question. Are you the person you would like to be or want to be? If not, WHAT ARE YOU DOING ABOUT IT?
I can already hear the reasons (excuses) pouring out. “I can’t help being the way I am, that is the way I was brought up”. Phooey, just because you have done things a certain way in the past doesn’t mean you have to continue doing them that way today. Or, “I can’t help the way I act, he/she did this and make me react as I did. Again, phooey. No one can make us react in any particular way. Things may be done that are not to my liking, but how I choose to react or how I choose to allow it to affect me, IS TOTALLY UP TO ME.
Can we “recreate” ourselves, YES. Is it easy, no, but the point is it can be done.
I ask a final time: Are you the person you want to be? If not, what are you going to do about it?