Dying Man’s Daily Journal – Leaning to deal with life differently

Heart attack #5 seems to have really knocked me onto my butt. It wasn’t even as “Major” as a couple of the others. I don’t seem to have the energy to bounce back as I have been able to do in the past, but I am getting there. There is a saying something like: “No one ever said life would always be easy, just always worth living”. That is so true and I am going to go on LIVING every moment I can squease into this lifetime.

I have often said that I know see things differently than I did in my younger years. I know I am very lucky to see things as I do now, but feel sad that it took me this long and to have to get to this point in my life before, I could actually see things as they are.

Obviously, I am either a slow learner or just not that bright that is the part that, I suppose makes me sad. I firmly believe, our Heavenly Father, will present us with life situations which are really opportunites for us to learn and grow as Spiritual Beings. The lesson is right there for us to learn from no matter in what form it is presented to us. If we do in fact take advantage of the opportunity presented to us, we will learn and grow as people. Yes, we will then see things differently.

Every parent here on this earth loves and wants their children to grow, to florish, to be happen, to love and to find love. To help them attain this we do our best in our own ways to teach our children the lessons in life, as we are able.

In my eyes I see this as being a good comparable with that of our individual relationships with our Heaven Father. There is a difference though, that being that His love for us is magnified to a level beyond our physical understanding. He wants us to learn and to grow as spiritual beings. No let’s face it if everything in life just flowed smoothly along we would just complacently go with the flow and likely learn very little about being a better person. Now obviously there are exceptions to this but I do think it would apply to most, as it did to me.

It seems we learn best from our mistakes or from facing adversity, this just seem to be a human trait or at the very least a “Bill” trait. Here is something else I have heard somewhere with people saying “if our kids could only learn from our mistakes, their lives could be so much easier.” Now that is likely true enough, but the big question to be asked here, is Did we learn from our own mistakes? Now I would like to be able to say, either I have never made any mistakes or that I had leaned from each on and grown from it. That statement would qualify for the biggest LOL ever. I was going to say, if you were able to write them all down you could fill a book with the mistakes in life I have made. But, that would be inaccurate, my mistakes would fill easily 5 or 6 books. It is not always a bad thing having memory issues as I am sure I have forgotten many embarassing blunders.

I am greatly comforted by the fact, that I do believe that God does see us as being Human. Humans are not perfect beings. He does not expect perfection of us, only that we keep trying. That I am. Someday it seems a little harder than others or maybe it is my effort is a little stronger somedays than others.

I often consider life to be like a highway and I refer to the highway of life. As does any highway, it at times has pot holes.

Hey, I love using comparables but know I often end up going around in circles but here we go as I try to get my thoughts across in a way that makes sense. In this physical world, let’s imagine you buy a new car. You hit a pot hole and no big deal, no noticable difference to the car. But, you realize if you continue to hit enough of these potholes it is going to add a lot of wear and tear to the car. As your experience as a driver increases you learn to watch the road ahead and realize at times you can steer to avoid the potholes, staying on smooth highway. You know though that no matter how carefully you drive there will be times when a pothole is suddenly infront of you before you have time to react and you hit it. At times the pothole may be so big your car actually gets stuck in it, your car is completely mired down in mud. You can sit there revving the engine, tires spinning madly and you are going no where. While in that mode you are just adding useless wear and tear to the car and accomplishing nothing. You sit there wheels pointing straight ahead, engine roaring and you are going no where. Here we go with another on of the quotes I heard somewhere: one definition of insanity could be continuing to do the same thing over and over again in exactly the same manner and yet continuing to be disappointed when the end result comes out the same.

We have to do something differently. Maybe instead of just trying to bulldoze our way straight ahead, we turn the steering wheel of the car. maybe we can get better traction if we try even going in a slightly different direction. Maybe we need someone to give us a little push. Could be we even need a tow truck to actually pull our car through. However we do it, we eventually get our car back on the highway, how much wear and tear or battering it took while mired down depends on how we dealt with it. Next time we get our car stuck, did we learn the futility of just sitting there or will be be a little quicker to try something different.

Don’t know how well I explained that. But, now try to picture the highway of life. Your mind is the driver, your heart the engine and your body is the car. How many potholes in life do we have to hit before we learn to avoid them? How many times do we have to get mired down before we realize the futility of just trying to bulldoze our way straight ahead. Let me know what you think.

4 Responses to Dying Man’s Daily Journal – Leaning to deal with life differently

  1. Larry says:

    Hi Bill
    I came across your blog several weeks ago. I started to read and just couldn’t seem to stop. I had to go back to the very beginning and read everything you have written or rambled as you like to call it.
    To say I have become a fan is putting it mildly. In this world of seemingly nothing but doom and gloom, you are like a ray of sunshine, a guiding light showing us how to live life. Your words have had such a profound impact on me and I thank you with my heart. You have changed my thinking, changed my life for the better. You have become like my mentor in life. I have book marked dozens of your pages so I can return to them again and again as I need to. You share such knowledge and do it in a written manner that makes it so easy for all to read, but that I had a gift such as yours. You and your words are a blessing to all.
    I hope you will not consider me to be out of line when I say this. I have gained something from every one of your writings. Scattered though the past 3 years are writings that are nothing short of inspirational when you share your thoughts on life. So many could gain so much by reading them. Please don’t be offended or think I am being rude when I say this. There are so many of these writings but they are scattered throughout the past 3 years. I am hoping you understand what I am saying, everything is excellent it is just some contain true wisdom on life. Your post here today is but one of them.
    You have many pages set up on your blog, wonderful everyone of them. Have you considered setting up one more page, or would you consider setting up one more page. It could be called Inspirations from Bill. Here you could put your life messages. Many would gain from reading this as they may not have or take the time to read your entire blog start to finish as I have. I hope I have not offended you in anyway as everything you write is inspirational.
    Bless you

    Hello Larry, welcome and thank you so much for your kind comments. I feel very flattered, but humbled and even a little embarrassed in a shy sort of way. But, hey one thing you will find with me is that flattery will get you everywhere.
    If any of my writings have helped you in anyway I am very glad and feel gratified.
    I could in fact very easily set up another page and would happily do so if there is a chance some may benefit from it. Again I am flattered by your suggestion to the title; “Inspirations from Bill” but I am sure there is something more appropriate. I am not actually sure which of my ramblings would fit into such a catagory. I am not sure exactly how I could go about this. I would also have to consider and make sure to include so many comments left by others as so often wisdom is contained far greater than any I could come up with.
    I am open to such an idea but am looking for suggestions as to how to do it.
    Thanks for the visit and I hope to hear from you again.

  2. Jo Hart says:

    Bill – Great Post. It makes a lot of sense. I’d like to think that I learn from each “pot hole” and hope if I ever hit that pot hole again, that I would have gained a bit of knowledge to be able to plough through it alot smoother. Although you know, it takes me a couple of times for the message to sink in, I’m a bit of a stubborn pain in the Ass at times !!! 🙂

    Larry – Welcome to Bill’s site. Where a chatty little bunch here, who I’d like to think have become great on-line friends. Let me tell you, they have all been there for me on a large number of occasions. Again Welcome. 🙂

    Hi Jo, Wouldn’t you think we would learn from the first time around. I guess I am like you, I learn a little each time but seemly it can take many many times before I really learn the lesson before me. Hey, I am male, that is my excuse for being a slow learner.

  3. Mel says:

    What’s it say that sometimes I aim for the potholes with smirky grin on my face? LOL

    You’d think I’da learned by now, huh?
    *shrugs* Something about the challenge….

    Yaknow, it’s okay to REST, Bill.
    REST is a good thing.
    Kinda required, yaknow?

    ‘Cept for those of us who aim at potholes and get out to push ourselves from the muck and mire. We don’t need rest…LOL…we need a new brain!

    ((((((((((( Bill )))))))))))))

    Seriously, I love the analogy and I needed the message.
    Now. If I’d just take the message and USE it, that’d be a good thing. 😉

    Ah, Mel we sound to be so much alike. I am not sure how many times in the past I have seen a pothole coming and just plowed straight through or steamrolled my way through. Ah, life can be so much simpler and easier.

  4. Mel says:

    *waving at Larry* Welcome, welcome, welcome! I see you did what I do–go to the beginnings, settle in and find yourself a warm place to call home.

    You picked wisely, sir.

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