Dying Man’s Daily Journal – Erectile Dysfunction


Now this is a topic I never imagined I would be writing about. A few days ago I received a comment from Gail. Gail writes of how her husband suffers from heart failure and diabetes similar to myself. She carries on to say he is now feeling depressed as he is no longer able to “be a man” in the bedroom. Gail specifically asks for anything I can say. Well what do I say here. Some may think I am sharing way to much information here but it is my journal and I can share what I want.

This is a sensitive and delicate, touchy subject for men. I have written about how I thought dying was the last really taboo topic in our world today. I think we have come across another one especially for men. Myself included.

For the very first time every I decided to do a little research on the topic instead of just my usual style, of just writing what ever comes to mind. I am still going to share my thoughts though.

How many times have I written that life is to be enjoyed. How often to we allow our thoughts to deprive us of enjoyment. By that I mean, if you go to some sort of a function that you really don’t feel like going to. You may even dread the very thought of even going. For what ever reason you are forced to go. You go in with the thought process in your head that, “I don’t want to be here and I am going to have a miserable time”.  Guess what, chances are the event or circumstance will live up or down to your expectations, your thoughts, your preconceived thoughts can determine much. Any sort of negative thinking is a waste of time and can deprive us of so much.

Where am I going with this preconceived idea thing when it comes to erectile dysfunction and it affect on men. I think it can affect a man far beyond the obvious way. It can hit us right down to the way we see ourselves as men. It can cause us to even see ourselves as being somewhat of a “lesser man”. I think this is based on societies preconceived “ideas” of what a man should be.

I have been doing a lot of thinking about this over the weekend. I ask this question, what is societies idea of what a man should be? How much of that preconceived idea comes from what we see in movies and on TV? I think it is widely acknowledged that some Ladies have in deed been negatively impacted by the “Hollywood” image of what a woman should be and how she should look. I think of the situation with the Ladies and just think it is so wrong. But, at the same time I am wondering are men going basically the same thing just in a different way?

How are men portrayed? Some are the strong, silent types. Others macho and tough, gentle and loving, funny……. Men are portrayed in every sort of way you can imagine. Now what is the one thing virtually all of these men have in common? Most are eager for, looking for and ready for sex at virtually the drop of a hat. How much does the “Hollywood” image of the stereo typical male affect us all? I know there are at least some Ladies that lump all men into that stereo typical mold, “men are only after one thing”. (which is wrong by the way in the majority of cases) To the men, do we tend to gauge ourselves or measure ourselves by the “stereo typical” image of me. I am not all men, I am one man. I am an individual and don’t want to measure my manliness or anything else about me based on stereo types nor do I want anyone else to.

To Gail’s husband if you happen to read this. As embarrassing as it is to admit to, I with you suffer from E.D. and have for years. I do know what you are going through. It is like you have lost an important part of your life, but remember it is only a part. There are medications that may be able to assist you, don’t be shy or embarrassed talk to your doctor. Be warned though if indeed your heart failure is such as mine you will find none of those medications are an option for you. I do know it is very difficult to deal with. Try to remember none of this has anything to do with your “manhood” it is merely a symptom of your medical condition or side affects from your medications.

To Gail, it is very important that you do not take this on as any kind of reflection of yourself or of your relationship. It is a medically induced condition don’t see it as anything more.

I did so some research on this topic and I did find this article very interesting. I hope I am not infringing on any copy write laws or anything. Credit is given to CNN and the Mayo Clinic.

Erectile dysfunction and diabetes: Keys to prevention and treatment

From MayoClinic.com
Special to CNN.com

Erectile dysfunction is a common complication of diabetes. And left untreated, it can erode the quality of life for you and your partner. Sexual problems can increase your level of stress, frustration and discouragement; trigger depression; and even make you less likely to manage your diabetes effectively.

It doesn’t have to be that way, though. You can reduce your risk of developing erectile dysfunction, prevent it from worsening and, in many cases, safely and effectively treat it — enabling you to lead a satisfying sexual life.

What is erectile dysfunction?

Erectile dysfunction is the inability to achieve or sustain an erection of sufficient rigidity for sexual intercourse. That is, your penis fails to become or stay hard enough. Erectile dysfunction, also called impotence, isn’t fleeting or isolated sexual failure, which many men experience at some point in their life. Rather, it’s erectile failure more than 75 percent of the time during attempted intercourse. Erectile dysfunction isn’t the same as having low sexual desire or having problems with ejaculation and orgasm.

Any man can develop erectile dysfunction. But the condition has distinctive features among those with diabetes:

  • It occurs more often. As many as 80 percent of men with diabetes develop erectile dysfunction, compared to about 22 percent to 25 percent of men without diabetes. More precise percentages are difficult to estimate because many men don’t talk to their doctors about the issue and because of variations in the way erectile dysfunction is defined.
  • It occurs earlier. Erectile dysfunction most frequently develops after age 65. In men with diabetes, however, it tends to occur 10 or 15 years earlier, on average. Men in their 30s and younger with diabetes have also experienced erectile dysfunction.

The longer you’ve had diabetes and the more severe it is, the more likely you are to develop erectile dysfunction.

What causes erectile dysfunction?

Erectile dysfunction has many causes, both physical and psychological. It may not be the result of your diabetes. Medical conditions such as heart or liver disease can cause erectile dysfunction, as can surgery or trauma. Depression, stress and excessive worry about sexual performance can all interfere with normal erectile function, whether you have diabetes or not. And certain medications, such as those used to treat high blood pressure, can also cause temporary erectile dysfunction.

But when you have diabetes, the main risk factors for developing erectile dysfunction are:

  • Nerve damage (neuropathy)
  • Blood vessel (vascular) damage
  • Poor blood sugar control

Normal male sexual physiology

A look at normal male physiology shows how these risk factors affect sexual ability.

The penis contains two cylindrical, sponge-like structures that run along its length. Those cylinders, the corpora cavernosa, make up the bulk of the erectile tissue of the penis. The corpus spongiosum is a chamber that surrounds the urethra and becomes engorged with blood during an erection. An artery runs deep through the center of each corpus cavernosum, allowing blood to flow in. Blood flows back out through a system of veins around the outside of each corpus cavernosum.

Normal sexual function requires the interplay of both the nervous and vascular systems, as well as physical, sensory and psychological events.

First, you become sexually stimulated. In response, your body releases neurotransmitters such as nitric oxide in the penile area. These are chemical messengers, telling smooth muscle cells in the erectile tissue to relax. When they relax, the central artery and other blood vessels widen, and blood rushes into the penis.

As the corpora cavernosa fill with blood, the spongy tissue presses up against the veins, compressing them and preventing blood from flowing out of the penis. That produces an erection as the trapped blood straightens and stiffens the penis. When the stimulation ends, the muscles contract, pressure decreases and the penis becomes flaccid, returning to its nonerect size and shape.

How diabetes affects normal sexual function

In men with diabetes, normal sexual function may be disrupted for a number of reasons related to nerve and blood vessel damage.

Diabetes can cause neuropathy or damage to nerves throughout your body, including the penis. Damaged nerves can’t communicate properly. So even though you might be emotionally stimulated to have intercourse, nerve damage means that information isn’t relayed to the penis, and it doesn’t respond.

In addition, poor blood sugar control can inhibit nitric oxide production. Lack of nitric oxide can prevent the pressure of blood in the corpora cavernosa from rising enough to close off penile veins, allowing blood to flow out of the penis instead of remaining trapped for an erection.

Blood vessels can also become narrowed or hardened (atherosclerosis) by conditions that often accompany diabetes, such as cardiovascular disease. When atherosclerosis occurs in arteries that supply the penis or pelvic area, sexual function may be disrupted.

What you can do

This sort of damage isn’t inevitable. And you can take steps to help prevent erectile dysfunction from occurring or worsening.

  • Talk to your doctor. Initially, you might be embarrassed to talk to your doctor about sexual health. But because erectile dysfunction is a common diabetes-related problem, your doctor won’t be surprised when you mention the topic. Your doctor may ask you about it first, in fact. Talking to your doctor before a problem occurs can help you prevent or delay erectile dysfunction. Your doctor can also help determine if erectile dysfunction is the result of diabetes or another condition.
  • Control your blood sugar. Good blood sugar control can prevent the nerve and blood vessel complications that lead to erectile dysfunction. If you’re having trouble controlling your blood sugar, talk to your doctor about refining your treatment strategy.
  • Avoid tobacco. Smoking and other tobacco use cause blood vessels to narrow, contributing to blockages that can lead to erectile dysfunction. Smoking also can decrease nitric oxide levels.
  • Avoid excessive alcohol. Drinking excessive amounts of alcohol can cause erectile dysfunction by damaging blood vessels. In general, for men that means no more than two alcoholic drinks a day, and for women, no more than one.
  • See a urologist. Urologists have special expertise in sexual health. Some specialize specifically in erectile dysfunction. They can help assess your condition, determine its cause, and identify safe and effective treatments.Your urologist may recommend oral medications such as sildenafil (Viagra), tadalafil (Cialis) and vardenafil (Levitra). A small number of men have lost vision in one eye after taking these medications, causing the Food and Drug Administration to issue a warning in July 2005.Other options include small penile suppositories that contain prostaglandins, or intra-penile injections. Your urologist may recommend surgery to implant a penile prosthesis.A less invasive option is a vacuum tube that you place over your penis. A gentle vacuum develops as you pump air out of the tube, causing the penis to become erect. Once enlarged, you can place a ring at the base of your penis to maintain the erection.
  • Get mental health treatment. Stress, anxiety and depression can cause erectile dysfunction. Even the fear of having erectile problems can make them worse. Talk to your doctor to see if these issues are playing a role in your erectile dysfunction. Treatment with a mental health professional might help.
  • Reduce your cardiovascular disease risk. Men with diabetes who also have cardiovascular disease, such as heart disease or high blood pressure, face an even greater likelihood of developing erectile dysfunction because of the added damage to blood vessels. Reducing your risk of developing cardiovascular disease, or taking the right steps to control existing conditions, can help prevent erectile dysfunction.

Knowing more about how diabetes-related complications can lead to erectile dysfunction may help you take measures to avoid the condition or prevent it from worsening. And as erectile dysfunction becomes more widely understood — thanks in part to mainstream television — it may become easier for you to discuss, just like any other medical condition.

By working closely with your diabetes care team, you can take preventive steps and learn about the best treatments for your situation so you and your partner can enjoy a healthy sexual relationship.

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    6 Responses to Dying Man’s Daily Journal – Erectile Dysfunction

    1. Mel says:

      First of all, I’m once again amazed and appreciative of your candor and honesty……and your willingness to get past whatever barriers that might toss themselves at you to reach out every chance you get.
      And that you went researching! No made up statistics with this one, eh?
      Way cool!!

      Might I be so bold as to simply add that ‘there’s more than one way to satisfy your partner’.

      There may be no ‘safe’ solution for the physical ED issue for the diabetic/heart failure patient. But that psychological issue of being less than/being unable to satisfy your partner–think outside the box. (no pun intended)
      Less of a man?……I’m sure that’s an issue for the fella as it is for the gal whose had a part(s) of her anatomy chopped off, who suddenly is left feeling/believing she’s ‘less than’ and incapable of now being attractive/desireable.
      Check out perceptions you might have. Ask–and have that conversation with the other half. Trust that they’ll tell you the truth and rely on the whole relationship being more powerful than one body part’s function.

      I know it’s a transition and a half and a difficult thing to come to terms with. But certainly it’s not one that anyone (who is a part of a couple) has to journey through alone. And really–there’s more than one solution here. But it does involve a willingness to get outside the box that we (and society/cultures) can put us in to.

      *kicking the soapbox*
      Darn thing…..LOL

      😉

    2. Jo Hart says:

      Couldn’t have said it any better than Mel herself. Thanks for being so honest with people Bill. That’s why so many of us love you.

      Like Mel says, Honesty is so important, and as long as you can share what you are feeling with your partner, there are ways to overcome it, and again as Mel said, other ways to “please”. As hard as the topic is to bring up, I would sincerely hope that anyone in this situation would have a loving understanding partner, who again like Mel says (thanks for the quotes Mel !!) think outside the box !!! Could be fun.

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      Amazing blog. I’m a gay escort in Los Angeles and can tell you that a lot more than 22-25% of the men I know have some kind of ED. I’ve developed a certain amount of experience in the area over the past twenty years. I agree with Jo – guys who can open their hearts and minds to the possibilities beyond their penis are very often surprised how sexed up they can feel; how enjoyable it can be. As with everything – opening the heart and the mind is not so easy. But in this case, well worth the trouble.

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