I thank all that over the past few days have left me such kind and complimentary comments. I am actually feeling kind of shy or embarrassed or something and not sure how to respond. I thank all so very much, I will be returning to reread these kind words when ever in need of a boost all are so heart warming. I will respond to each but need a day or two to come up with an appropriate reply for now I thank you so very much.
A few days ago I did a post on appreciating men, this followed by a post on appreciating women. I am so grateful and happy at the responses I got to the posts. I notice I have received many more responses from the ladies appreciating their men than I have from men appreciating their ladies. I pretty much expected this. It is not that the appreciation is not there it is just collectively as a group men have a more difficult time in expressing our thoughts and feelings. Hey, I turned to an email to express my feelings as it was worded just so much better than anything I could come up with.
I am never sure how successfully my wording gets what I am trying to say across. It is just it seems more and more in the world today it seems we are categorizing people. Painting all with the same brush and that is just not fair or right. Now, I am pretty sure if I asked pretty much anyone, are you judgemental and the immediate response would be, NO. I say excellent to that. But, really is that true? I don’t think that is true at least for the majority of us, myself included.
Let’s just look at thoughts of men in general. Granted our individual life circumstances will play a huge part in how men are viewed in general. Let’s put our individual situations aside and look out at the world in general. What are our thoughts about men as a total group. I have to wonder how many people if honest would admit to having thoughts along the lines of, “men are all the same they are only after one thing”. I could come up with a dozen different examples of this sort of thinking, but I think the one makes my point.
Let’s move to the ladies. Now in this way, I think the ladies have it even tougher than the guys do. It starts of way back in high school. There were the “good girls” and there were the “bad girls”. I am not sure how it is today but back in my day that what was seem. Today, it seems so very much that the ladies are still be judged or categorized more and more on physical appearance and even age. Now, how wrong is that?
Still claim yourself to be non judgemental. OK, picture this, you are walking down the street and coming towards you, you see 2 men walking towards you, both about the same age, size etc.. One is obviously a street person dressed in rags, the other a business person dressed neatly in a suit and tie. Are you going to see them both in the same way?
Why do we have the need to categorize people? Just as importantly, why is it as individuals we seem to feel an need to be viewed as being in a particular group or category. Why is it so important to us as to how others may view us? Isn’t what we think of ourselves more important than what anyone else thinks. Do we give away ourselves to conform so as to fit into a society demanded group? Why? Are we better people if we know we are seen as being in the “right” group? If we do we do see ourselves as being in the “right” group, then do we also see ourselves as being maybe a little bit better or superior to those who are not. Why? People are people simple as that.
I am hoping men will read this and say to themselves, “he is right, so often we as a gender are often being categorized, all painted with the same brush and that isn’t fair, we are not all alike. Many women and often society as a whole tends to see us all based on the actions or inactions of a few and that isn’t fair”!!!
I am hoping Ladies will read this and say to themselves, “he is right, so often we as a gender are often being categorized, even to the point it has become based on our physical appearance and age, that just isn’t fair”!!!
I hope each individual, male and female, will then look within themselves and think and realize, I am me, I am an individual, I am unique. I should not be included in any generalizations about my gender, that is unfair to me as an individual”!!!
Now there is always a flip side to every coin. We realize our particular gender is being descriminated against. The opposite sex which ever it may be has unfair, unrealistic expectations or thoughts of who I am or who I should be. That is not fair, I am me, look at me and accept me for who I am. I am my own person and don’t deserve to be categorized by anyone based on anything. To that I say fair enough and good job. That is the only way in which anyone should be viewed.
I think it is easy enough for all of us to recognize when our gender is being mistreated as a whole. Now ask yourself, am I guilty of mistreatment of the opposite sex base on gender stereo typing? I think to at least some degree we all are.
I go back to my often used “Bill” statistics. About 5% of people being both men and women are Earth Angels. About 5% of people being both men and women are jerks. The remaining 90% of people being both men and women are nice kind, good hearted people doing their best in life. The lines between the groups aren’t carved in stone and we all jump from group to group depending on the situation.
In my typical rambling style, I hope I have brought about my point that each gender has it’s own issues and problems. Everyone should be seen as an individual with no gender based judgements or expectations in place.
I pose a simple question to all. Would this all not equally apply other people, say people of other faiths or other cultures? Shouldn’t everyone be seen only as an individual? Wouldn’t it be wrong to view others of a different culture or faith based on stereo typical thoughts or ideas we may have? Please tell me your thoughts.