Dying Man’s Daily Journal – Jumping to negative conclusions

A day or tow ago I wrote of me being “on guard duty”. At 3:30 am I had seen what I saw as being a suspicious car coming down our street. It was driving very slowly with no head lights on. This car then pulled over and parked directly behind the car belonging to company we had staying at the time. Where I was sitting in the shadows I don’t think I could be seen from the street. I watched this suspicious car for what must have been 5 minutes and all was quiet, no on got out. That made me even more suspicious and I felt inside this had to be bad guys “casing” the neighborhood or checking out the car. I decided to reveal myself thinking if they were bad guys they would take off immediately on realize someone was watching them. That is exactly what happened. Which just in my mind confirmed my suspicions. Now I still do think that very likely this was the case and it was indeed someone in the car that was planning no good.

I do think that a lot of the problems in the world today come from people jumping to conclusions and acting based on what they see and therefor know to be true, with out necessarily knowing the entire story. There are always 2 sides to every story. Based on everything I saw with my very own eyes I “knew” this was someone up to no good and still do think that was likely the case. BUT, I don’t know both sides of the story, only what I saw.

I was thinking about it and realize that somewhere out there in Winnipeg is possibly a lady telling a story something like this. I was on my way home and it was really late. I was dialing my cell phone so I was driving slowly. When you answered my call, I pulled over to the side of the street so we could talk and I wouldn’t be distracted from my driving. After we had talked for a few minutes suddenly this big guy came out of the shadows not to far from the car. Scared me half to death, did I ever get out of there in a hurry.

Now if this is the case my most sincere apologise to who ever I may have scared. Now what really do I know to be true. Our area has a recent history of break ins, auto thefts and vandalism. Local neighborhood watch and the police advise we should be on guard for anything that looks suspicious. I know I saw a car driving very slowly down the street with no headlights on. I know that same car pulled over to the side of the street and just sat there for approx. 5 minutes with no one getting out. So I know area history and what I saw all of my suspicions were based solely on that. That was enough to put me into “Rambo” mode as my dear blogging friend Mel calls it. I stood guard protecting the homestead. I have to wonder how many others, even how many other countries go into “rambo mode” based on what they see and therefore “know” to be true. Fact of the matter is I couldn’t see into that car. I have no idea of who was in there or what they were doing. Based on what I know and what I saw I jumped to conclusions. Was I right, was I wrong, I don’t know. Right or wrong I know I would react in the same way again given those same circumstances. I suppose it is always better to be safe than sorry.

Now I am not unique or special in any sort of way, so I can only assume if I react based on what I see and therefore know to be true that others must also do the same. I can’t help but wonder how much damage is done in relationships, within countries or around the world by people acting on what they “know” to be true based on history and from what they see happening.

I am thinking of a couple of examples from my own life, my own history. Now if I see someone one staggering down the street, my mind seems to automatically jump to the conclusion that this is some drunk and to just avoid him/her. Now I have to wonder, back several years ago when my body was adjusting to some of my medications, I was known to stumble and stagger on occasion. (thankfully no longer an issue). Now I never noticed anything like this happening but I have to wonder if some didn’t see me, classify me as a drunk in their minds and avoid coming anywhere near me. Just have to wonder.

One other example just came to mind. I am an early riser usually up around 6:00am. In the summer I love to sit out on the front step and listen to all the birds. Such a beautiful sound hundreds of birds singing all at the same time. One morning I noticed a young lady approaching from further down the street. Now this particular young lady was wearing a mini skirt, I admit that does catch my eye. Young lady was walking on my side of the street. I was surprised when while she was still 3 or 4 houses away she left the sidewalk and continued walking but now in the middle of the street. Very little traffic on the street so not an issue. She carried on past the house and I noticed once 3 or 4 houses past she moved back on to the sidewalk. It dawned on me she was nervous about walking by the house. Hey, there must be someone lurking in the area that made her nervous. i jump up and am checking the back yards etc.. I don’t see anyone anywhere. Then it hit me, it was me that made her nervous. Initially, I was shocked and thought it to be ridiculous, I mean I would never hurt her, if anything I would be one she could run to in need of help. But, then as I thought of it. It was very early in the morning, no other people around. She didn’t know me or anything about me. Then it made sense as to why she would want to keep her distance.

Personal safety must always come first, it is better to be safe than sorry. Some how I can’t help but feel sad that the world has come to the point where jumping to negative conclusions seems to be a way of life. What do you think


2 Responses to Dying Man’s Daily Journal – Jumping to negative conclusions

  1. Jo Hart says:

    It’s so easy to jump to conclusions. I’m always doing it, and it’s a very bad habit.
    I have to admit, myself and my husband walked home from a party Saturday night. Couldn’t get a taxi, and it was about a 3k walk to home. I had my cell phone in one hand ready to push the button, and my high heels in the other with the pointy bit ready to poke someone in the eyes. Isn’t it tragic that I just didn’t enjoy the evening stroll home with my husband, even if it was 3am in the morning !!!! (Yes, I found those party feet of mine again !!!)

    Glad you found those party feet, wish I could have seen you booging the night away. Isn’t it sad the precautions we must take today to be safe. Safety is always #1 but how much enjoyment do we miss out on through fear. It is just sad we can’t just live OUR lives without fear of others invading our enjoyment.

  2. Mel says:

    Fear does strange things to me too, Bill. And really, it’s fear that generally gets me jumping to ‘negative’ conclusions.

    I must admit that I drive himself nutz some moments….flipping the coin to play out other possible scenarios, playing ‘devil’s advocate’ for the good….
    The guy weaving in and out of traffic–musta got a call that his pregnant wife is on the way to the hospital!
    The checkout gal at the grocery store who was grumpy–musta lost her puppy that morning and wrecked her car on the way to work!

    I just never know where another person’s walked that day……and I don’t really have a license to think/act badly towards another human being.

    Now, granted, I don’t do that perfectly–which is why I’m still doing ‘practice, practice, practice!!’.
    But I hear from folks that I’m ‘compassionate’….LOL….so I MUST be making progress–cuz that did NOT use to be one of my character attributes, believe me!

    (((((((((( Rambo Bill ))))))))))))

    And just for the record–I’m one who does pull over to use the stupid cell phone cuz I suck at multitasking in a car! (and have no desire to improve that talent either, thanksverymuch!)

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