Dying Man’s Daily Journal – The Strength of Vi

I thank all that sent John and Nellie the wedding anniversary congratulations. It was a quiet celebration as various member of the family gathered at their home. Both are not in good health which eliminated any ideas of going out. John (87) is in the end stages of Alzheimer’s and is unable to recognize anyone or even be aware of what is happening. Nellie (81) with her failing health was unable to get out of bed, so each in turn spent time “visiting” with her in the bedroom. I ask all please for prayers for each of them. Please include John (Vi’s brother) and Vi herself. John suffered a major stroke a couple of months ago and was left paralyzed on his left side. He is making progress but it is painfully slow and he seems to be becoming more depressed and frustrated. I can understand his frustration, going from being an active guy to one that is completely bedridden.

Vi is carrying such a great weight on her shoulders, it is getting her down. It is all so emotionally draining, dealing with my health issues, her father’s, her mother’s and her brothers all at the same time. Add to that, she is a volunteer for hospice and palliative care. She volunteers by visiting terminal patients in their homes, providing support and general help in any way she can, driving them to doctors appointments etc. Often just a visit and some company is the greatest and most appreciated thing she can provide.

I am very proud of my Vi, who has the biggest most loving heart I have ever seem. The Good Lord was certainly smiling down on me the day he directed us to meet. Daily, I thank Him for that.


My dear Vi

16 Responses to Dying Man’s Daily Journal – The Strength of Vi

  1. I like Vi. I don’t know her, but I can tell she is special. Please give her a hug for me Bill.


  2. Bill Howdle says:

    Thank you Martha, It was my pleasure to deliver the hug you as asked. Vi says thank you.

  3. katherine. says:

    it seems you are truly blessed.

  4. ceeque says:

    Vi bears her burdens really well and with obvious good heart, wishing her Strength & Love & Hugs too!

  5. Bill Howdle says:

    katherine, I have been blessed and I know it and appreciate it.

    Charles, It is my pleasure to deliver the hugs you have offered, thank you.

  6. Simonne says:

    Dearest Vi,

    I’ve done a small Goddess card reading for you. Here’s what came up:

    “You need to go outside today and be among your flowers, it will help to revive your energy and your spirit. Don’t forget that in life there are beginnings and endings and you have chosen to help people in stages of transition. This is your burden and your gift. You need to honour this gift in order to lighten the burden. Everything is as it should be. What seems unfair is not. It is not for you or others to judge why, we are here to serve and to love, and you need love yourself above all else. Mary Magdalene, Kuan Yin and Mother Mary are with you. They guide you and they heal through you, this is why you are compelled to do what you do. You have learned the gift of unconditional love and now the wise women want you to turn all that you know to yourself. They are holding you now, urging you to do this. You will always be safe in their arms. Do not judge them or God about why others around you have pain. It is their own journey and they must walk it to reach their own place of love. Focus only on the love that is within everyone and within you and the burdens of your gift will leave you. Have faith in your prayers. We hear them. You are an Earth Mother, here to nurture the sick and to help heal the planet. Remember to spend time outdoors as this is how you recharge yourself to then give energy to others without feeling drained. You are stronger than you think you are. Everyone around you tells you how strong you are, but often, in your heart, you doubt this. Don’t doubt this, Earth Mother, you have abundant strength. Try not to hold onto negative thoughts. Do not see yourself as a victim, for you are a Divine child of God with a gift to share. See your strength and feel only love in your heart and all will be happy for you.”

    Hope this helps. Much love to you Vi.
    Bill, look after your earth angel today, it’s her turn, ok?

  7. justordinary says:

    Vi sounds very special Bill from what I’ve read about her here. God bless her. I pray for you and your family even though I do not know you other than through this journal and I hope my prayers return to you and your family.

    It is a pleasure stopping by your journal to read what you have written. Thank you for that.


  8. rhosie says:

    I know god has a certain purpose for Vi…. Things happen for a reason…. Its amazing that despite of the thing she experience, she still manage to extend her hand for others.It truly inspirational…. Vi I wish you well……

  9. Jo Hart says:

    I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, Vi is one of our Earth Angels. Even though I have never met her, I feel her spirit.

    She is a special person, who I send prayers and love to.

    The world needs more people like you Vi, it would make it a better place.

    Love to you both


  10. mel says:

    Oh–g’ahead…..hug her for me, too.

    (one can’t have too many hugs……..nor too many angels in their lives)

  11. Wow, I don’t know what to say. She truly is an Earth Angel. I am not Vi, so I do not know how I would best take care of myself if I were her. Being in the garden sounds restorative. But if it were I whose husband and father and mother and brother were ill, I think I would take a little break from the volunteer job and then carve out some time for myself. I call it my “Kelly time” and it’s essential to my sanity.

  12. enreal says:

    God is there for you both…Vi seems to be an amazing woman. I shall keep her in my prayers.

  13. RubyShooZ says:

    Wishing you both and all peace in your hearts and peace in your minds as well.

    Add my hugs too.

  14. jossglv says:

    Hi Bill,

    I ‘m a very new blogger. When I set up my account, i pressed the arrow button in the corner, and word press diverted me onto your blog. I would like to say that your one of the most bravest people i have ever known, and that you have brought tears to my eyes on numberous accasions. I wish the best for you and Vi, and that the rest of your time together is magical.

    both of you are in my thoughts and prayers,

    Joss Glv

  15. Pia says:

    Dear Bill

    I don’t know how it works but it seems to me that people around me who have had a lot on their plate, especially in caring for ill family members, somehow manage to get through it all no matter what. It’s good that she does volunteer work because it will keep her involved in other people’s situations so that she may realize that she and you are not alone on the cross. “All you both have to do is call out Jesus name…he is not far. He’s right behind you on the other side of that cross, and you have a special place in his heart because you are keeping him company. Don’t give up that spot for anything in the world!” These are the words of Bishop Tonino Bello, an Italian bishop, president of Pax Christi, a movement for peace. He died in 1993 of cancer, which he already had but did not know it, when he spoke the above words to a group of sick pilgrims who went to Lourdes with him. I hope these words will touch your heart as they touched mine when I first read them, and touched the hearts of the people who were there. …

  16. Vicky says:

    Vi.. You are a very special lady and I am privileged to have a Cree as a sister in law. Your contract has been a very heavy one and you are accomplishing it very well. All those around you are truly blessed. You are in my prayers and I trust that God and your angels will be there all the time to help you. Please remember to ask them for their support.. you will be heard. We all love you lots.
    Yake care.
    Love and Light

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