On a day by day basis I can’t really see any change in myself, physically, emotionally or spiritually. Usually, such change takes place so gradually I don’t even realize it is happening. It seems to take the happening of some event for me to gauge the change.
One of those type of events happened a couple of days ago. Our car was broken into. I understand now if you hit the lock mechanism on the door of a car really hard, it will drive it straight into the door and unlock it in the process. We are fortunate that other than the broken door lock, a few scratches around the ignition and the contents of the glove compartment being scattered nothing was damaged.
It is in my reaction to this I can see the change. At times in the past I would have been furious and been upset about it for who knows how long. This time my reaction was different, it was sort of, “huh, isn’t that to bad, I guess this is going to mean a visit to the car insurance”. I then even said a little prayer for who ever did it.
Who ever did it is in need of prayers and help. I think of how sad or even pathetic their lives must be for them to have to resort to this sort of thing. It is like, I can get the lock fixed and everything for me will be back to normal. But this poor person is still “stuck” in their life. When I think about it that way I feel kind of sorry for them. I suppose this ties in with what I wrote about yesterday, separate the deed from the doer. I dislike what they did to our car, but I can’t help but feel sorry for the person. What a sad life they must have to resort to this sort of thing and with this sort of thing going on in their lives today, what can the future hold?
Some thing else I have learn, that is very big for me. By the time I learned of the car, the deed was already done. There was nothing I could do to change that, it was beyond my control. All I could control was how I allowed it to affect me. I could allow myself to get all upset and bothered. By doing that what am I doing? Really, I am just further adding to my own “misery”. I am giving the vandals or would be car thieves further power to hurt me, beyond what they have already done to the car. I would in essence be giving them more power over me. There fore, for my own peace of mind and well being I will not allow myself to get upset.
Plus, I want to thank Kelly, my friend, who’s blog is on my blog roll, West Coast Grrlie Blather. Kelly wrote of a friend who’s car was not only vandalized, it was torched and completely destroyed. Kelly, your post helped me look at our little issue with a little more “proper” perspective and helped me realize over all I am a lucky man.