Vi and I are home and have quickly settled into our regular routines. She is out in her flower gardens and here I at the computer. We have received further confirmation that earth Angels are among us. When we left for Shauna’s our lawn needed mowing. We had received so much rain it was just to wet to cut. We were gone for 4 days and we (Vi) was dreading how long it would be by that time. We return and find the lawn freshly mowed. An anonymous act of kindness for which we are so grateful. Thank you to our mystery helper.
Vi loves her gardening and has such a green thumb. I have to share a few pictures. It is quite early in our Canadian growing season, but she has the backyard beautiful already.
I am feeling good right at the moment. If a little shortness of breath is my biggest complaint I have it pretty good.
A special hi to my son-in-law Jake who I see left a comment here this morning. Shauna got herself a very good man.
I am sitting here feeling a little ashamed of myself. Yesterday, I wrote of a comment I received that wasn’t all that flattering. I like to say as I sit here that I did not take it personally nor was I offended by it. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion about everything including me and this blog. My mind keeps going back to that comment, not the actual comment or the message contained in it, but my reaction to it.
I didn’t like or agree with what someone else had to say, so I deleted it. I regretted that choice, about 1 second after hitting the delete button. I wonder now how many times in life someone has stated an opinion different than my own and I on hearing it just hit a mental delete button, invalidating and erasing their opinion. How judgemental of me, to just know my opinion is the right one and that anyone that disagrees is obviously wrong. I will just mentally delete any comments thoughts or ideas that are not in direct line with my own.
I have to wonder, back over my life time how many, thoughts, ideas, things or even people may I have just brushed aside as they didn’t conform with my norm. People I really hope not.
No ones opinion is less important or less valuable than that of anyone else. No one race, color, culture of religion is less than or greater than the next.
I thank who ever sent me that comment, it has really made me more aware of who I am. You have helped me, I just hope I can return the favor some time.
June 20, 2007 at 2:07 am |
I’ve been faced with detractors as well and hope that I have learned from them – sometimes I do, sometimes it can take some work on my part to get to the place where I can learn the leson you seem to have learned. I’m glad you posted about it since it’s not something we can just shrug off until we get a chance to proscess it.
BillBuddy,
I miss your encouraging, loving posts on my blog. I wonder where you’ve been and know that you care bigtime. Again, I’d write to you personally but do not want to burden you with excessive emails since I know you get many of them. I feel that somehow I’ve gone wrrong with you – said or did something that hopefully you are working through.
I’m just another person sharing of herself, her experiences, and her love. Yes, the anger comes through at tirmes, but I do try to keep being positive and uplifting t0 others, as do youl
I’ve kept commenting here since I care so much, but I wonder if you want my input – I wonder if I should lay off – if that is what you want.
Huge hugs,
N.
June 20, 2007 at 4:10 am |
A righteous statement my brother……….a righteous statement.
Reg
June 20, 2007 at 5:30 am |
RubyShooZ, Nora my friend.
Please know you have done nothing to go “wrong with me”. I highly value your friendship and the many supportive comments you leave me. Please don’t stop.
I had not realized how much I was neglecting my friends until today. Yours is actually the third message today that asks basically the same question. I don’t think there is anything you could do that could make you “wrong with me”. I do apologize to all my dear friends for not visiting more often.
I will try to do better in the future. I hope all know if I don’t visit it is not that I don’t care as I do very very much. I hope it is just a phase or something I am going through but I just seem to be more and more tired all the time and am spending less time on the computer.
Nora, I love you and all my friends
Bill
June 20, 2007 at 5:44 am |
Bill and Vi,
Thanks for the pics of the flowers and “north 40″ The place looks great!!You do have wonderful neighbors – in fact we met one remember?????
Hope the weather stays fine and Vi can go to her garden and find comfort working there. Somehow working outside with the plants gives a new focus for thoughts and gets one away from their worries and daily grind.
Love to both,
Shirley
June 20, 2007 at 6:40 am |
Bill, You are just wonderful. You and Vi deserve the goodness and joy that you give one another. I miss your comments (in fact I wrote about you today) but I know you are a busy man, with a lot of lawn tractor riding to do!
Suffice it to say, I echo RubyShooz comments:
I miss you too!
Martha
June 20, 2007 at 7:28 am |
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June 20, 2007 at 8:39 am |
don’t be too hard on yourself Bill … it is your blog … so you are the keeper of all things, including comments you may not like to see on your blog …
i love the flowers and fam pics you’ve posted recently! what fun to “see” you guys ….
blessings on your day!
June 20, 2007 at 9:02 am |
Hey Bill!
I didn’t realize that such beautiful flowers could grow in “Winter-peg”! =) You and Vi must have a special touch.
In regards to the negative comment on your blog: I believe God uses those times to check our humility. Is your site a waste of time? No, you know that from all the thankful comments but it does remind one of who should be getting the glory.
I appreciate your humble, public response, Bill.
Blessings!
June 20, 2007 at 9:19 am |
Thanks for visiting my blog and leaving a comment. Of course, you can link to http://grievingwithguinever.wordpress.com. (I’ve included my URL here because if you click on my name, it takes you to my birthing blog instead)
I’ve deleted comments and regretted it too. Now, I’ll leave them in the moderation que and mull them over for awhile, deciding to edit or delete. Like another person commented, it’s your blog and you get to decide what’s on it!
Blessings, Guinever
June 20, 2007 at 10:31 am |
I’m humbled by the humility.
And I’m envious of the garden. OMGosh……peonies get dashed to the ground here (hard rains will do that) by Memorial Day. Yours are so lovely…..looks like all of your flowers are gorgeous right now! Enjoy ‘em lots–sneak out with a cuppa coffee for the gal and spend some time admiring ‘em, it’s good for the soul. (and for the plants, too…..but I’m one who talks to my flowers, so ‘warning, warning’! LOL)
June 20, 2007 at 12:19 pm |
Hi Bill,
The last two sentences of your post sum it all up really, don’t they?! Don’t be hard on yourself though, my friend. There is also such a thing as a healthy mental delete button; a shield from harm or negativity and it sounds like yours is working just fine! To be able to deflect negativity like that is great and so so good for the healing process. I’d stop mulling over it if I were you!
Love the garden – kisses to Vi xx
June 21, 2007 at 4:07 am |
aaaarghhhh!! Another well kept garden!!! I can`t stand it any longer, looks like I`m going to have to give it a go then!!!!
Comment…you need no forgiveness/humilty/whatever for erasing an openly insulting comment, there is no justification for that comment no matter which way you look at it and to be quite honest the writer is probably reading this smirking away to themselves, after all, they “won” in their way because it has raised this shockwave?
June 21, 2007 at 8:06 am |
Just wanted to pop in and say hello. Came here via Donna’s blog. God bless you. A heartfelt post, one that I can relate to, as I’ve done nearly the same thing.
June 21, 2007 at 6:42 pm |
Hi Bill,
My dad has lived with heart failure for 35 years, so don’t get too deep into this dying thing. You’ll miss out on a lot of life. He is nearing the end right now, at age 70, which is how I discovered your blog. I was looking for info. about the process. I appreciate your blog. Just a word of encouragement.
As for your blog, we all think, judge and say things that we may regret later. That’s life. Correct your mistakes and move on.
Ken
June 21, 2007 at 9:04 pm |
Don’t be hard on yourself…
June 23, 2007 at 1:57 pm |
Sometimes people lack charity and respect in expressing themselves. That’s one of the drawbacks of the immediateness of comboxes. Maybe that person regretted making the comment that way one second after he/she pressed the submit comment button.
Hugs to you and Vi